Author Archives: Jay Butchko
Help! Alimony Obligations Make Retirement Impossible!
If you are forking over a huge alimony payment every month and it’s causing you to question whether you can afford to retire, perhaps you should look into whether spousal maintenance modification is an option for you. Alimony in Missouri Spousal support is available to lesser earning spouses of either gender if they make… Read More »
Are You a Man Who Needs Out of a Marriage Because You’re Abused?
If you’re of the opinion that domestic violence (DV) occurs only against women, you are sadly mistaken. Men suffer as victims of DV almost as frequently as women do, and they often have additional issues to work out. Who can they tell without being viewed as a weakling? When facing the inherent biases in… Read More »
Making 50:50 Custody Work
If divorce is on the horizon and you are worried about your chances of having joint physical custody of your children, you should know that under Missouri law there is every possibility for both parents to be greatly involved with the children post-divorce. The days where mothers are automatically given total custody are long… Read More »
The Stages of Divorce
If you are headed for a divorce, or have recently experienced one, you may be unsure as to the impact of such a huge life change will have on you. Some researchers compare the stages of divorce with the stages of grief, and it’s clear to see why. Divorce is the end of life… Read More »
Co-Parenting Tips
Co-parenting with your ex requires communicating and cooperating. This benefits both you and your ex, and, more importantly, makes the children feel safe and loved. Even if you have residual negative feelings toward your ex, experts recommend that you do whatever it takes to make things work for the sake of the kids. Transitioning… Read More »
Estate Planning After Divorce
If you’ve recently divorced, there may be some details you haven’t thought about recently. One important task for you now is to review your estate planning and make any revisions that may be appropriate. A good way to get started is to make sure your estate planner has a copy of your divorce agreement… Read More »
Parallel Parenting Can be Effective When Former Spouses Don’t Get Along
Successful co-parenting is said to be a major contributor to the emotional health of kids whose parents divorce. All the same, it is often easier said than done. Even when divorcees are dedicated to the idea of helping their kids feel loved and supported, and they recognize the importance of having their ex in… Read More »
Is The Right of First Refusal a Good Idea for Your Parenting Agreement?
When divorced parents share custody of children, there are going to be times when the parent who has custody finds themselves in need of childcare in order to work, play,, or away from home for some reason. On these occasions the other co-parent might like to pick up a little extra time with the… Read More »
The Scoop on the 7-Year Itch
We’ve all heard about the 7-year itch—that notorious time when marriages seem to fall apart. So is it all mythology, or is there anything behind it? We could start by asking how long the average first-marriage lasts? The answer is 8.2 years. Some conclude that the seven-year-itch takes its toll, and couples decide to… Read More »
Kevin Costner and the Ironclad Prenup that Wasn’t
It’s a legal fracas for the books: mega-movie star Kevin Costner and estranged wife Christine Baumgartner are fighting tooth and nail despite having a prenuptial agreement that was sold to the couple as being “ironclad.” After nearly two decades together Baumgartner filed for divorce, and is now challenging the prenup and the terms of… Read More »
