Author Archives: Jay Butchko
When Your Kids Blame You for the Divorce
Divorce can be heart-wrenching in many ways, none more so than when children refuse to see or interact with one parent whom they hold accountable for the derailment of the family. What can you do if your kids view you as the “bad guy” who essentially ruined the life they’d always known? It’s Complicated … Read More »
Through Sickness and in Health—Unless…
Remember that part of your marriage vow where you promised to stick together through sickness and health? It may surprise you to learn that when it comes to serious illnesses, marriages are a whopping seven times more likely to fall apart when women become sick than when their husbands do. What’s up with that?… Read More »
How Do You Know if Divorce is the Right Move?
If you are feeling ambivalent about getting a divorce, don’t beat yourself up. You are considering one of the most dramatic and life-changing events possible. A decision this big shouldn’t be easy. If it’s something that’s been on your mind for a while, it may be worthwhile to seek clarity through some questions. If… Read More »
Read This if You’re Feeling Bad About Your Divorce
Divorce can be tough. Many people are burdened with long-term feelings that weigh them down as they strive to move forward following their divorce. It’s nearly impossible to turn over a new leaf when you’re stuck in past battles. So for anyone struggling to pull themselves out of the after-divorce rut, consider giving yourself… Read More »
Did Love Bombing Get You into a Bad Marriage?
The beginning of your relationship with your spouse was magical. You were showered with compliments and gifts, and your lover was always available to fulfill your every desire. They quickly elevated you as their soulmate and eagerly demonstrated their love in lavish and public ways. You simply couldn’t resist when they quickly insisted on… Read More »
Financial Problems and Divorce
If you are one of the millions of people whose marital relationship is on pins and needles due to financial issues, you’re not alone. Financial insecurity is bubbling up in many families these days due to job losses, rising prices, and uncertainty about what is ahead for the country. All of this can lead… Read More »
Effective Co-Parenting
Divorce is never easy, but one thing you’re determined to do is co-parent in a way that demonstrates to your children that they are loved and valued by each parent, despite the split. For some families that sounds like a Herculean goal, but the truth is, it can be done with some simple adjustments… Read More »
What Are The Benefits Of A Collaborative Divorce?
While divorce can be a messy and emotionally wrought experience, many couples part ways without that sort of venom and drama. If you are in the latter group, a collaborative divorce may be a great fit for your divorce. What is a Collaborative Divorce? Collaborative divorce dispenses with the bitter battles, and relies on… Read More »
Divorcing an Alcoholic
Alcohol use disorder (AUD) can have a debilitating impact on a marriage, whether just one or both spouses struggle with it. Between the emotional turmoil, communication failures, and financial impacts, it can be tough to hold a marriage together. If you are considering divorcing someone who’s alcoholism has made continuing the marriage impossible, you… Read More »
Dating During Divorce
If you are going through a divorce, you may start to think about dating someone new. There are good reasons to move forward with this idea under certain circumstances, although there are also some major perils, as well. Is dating during divorce the right move for you? Think it Through While it’s possible to… Read More »
