Author Archives: Jay Butchko
6 Things About Divorce
Divorce: it’s a huge decision, and one that results in loss, no matter how you slice it. You lose a partner, a routine, and a way of life. It’s an emotional drain, regardless of who initiated it, and regardless of how amicable things are between the two of you. Whether it feels excruciating or… Read More »
Living Together Post-Divorce
More and more divorced couples wind up living together after their divorce these days. A lot of the driving force behind this is economic pressures, what with inflation, housing costs, and the like. Is it a good option for you? Benefits Without question, sharing the cost of housing and more can ease much of… Read More »
Gen Z Looks at Marriage and Divorce Differently
As Gen Z-ers hit their late 20’s, some have dipped their toes into marriage and discovered they didn’t like it as much as they thought they might. And while this group has some similarities to others seeking a divorce, as a group, there are some big differences from previous generations, as well. Gen Z… Read More »
Resolving Parenting Disputes Through Education and Mediation
When divorcing parents who are non-violent find it difficult to tune in to their kids’ needs, it is sometimes because they are so wrapped up in conflict with their spouse that they can’t seem to get beyond it. If this sounds familiar, rest assured that interventions such as divorce education, therapeutic mediation, and parenting… Read More »
When In-Laws Drive You to Divorce
We’ve all heard the jokes about horrible mothers-in-law, and, while they’re always good for a chuckle, maybe your real-life in-laws are not so funny. Whether it’s your spouse’s parents or siblings, there’s no question as to the impact in-laws can have on a marriage—for the good or for the bad. The Research While in-laws… Read More »
Are You an Invisible Dad– Unrecognized by the World?
Times are changing, and that is very good news for fathers when it comes to child custody in a divorce. For years, women were presumed to be the “better” parent, and dads felt pretty lucky to see their children every other weekend and maybe one other night a week. But nowadays there are plenty… Read More »
Is it a Mistake to Move Out Before the Divorce is Finalized?
If you’re in a miserable marriage that has been consumed with bickering and unhappiness for a while, you may think packing up your stuff and finding your own place is the best way to announce that you want a divorce. While there are circumstances where moving out is absolutely the logical—even necessary—thing to do,… Read More »
Are You Sure About Getting Divorced?
It’s one of the biggest decisions of your life: getting a divorce. There are problems in your marriage, that’s for sure. But is there a route to happiness short of ending the marriage? Perhaps now, before going all the way, you should consider some questions in an attempt to bring clarity to the moment…. Read More »
When Your Kids Blame You for the Divorce
Divorce can be heart-wrenching in many ways, none more so than when children refuse to see or interact with one parent whom they hold accountable for the derailment of the family. What can you do if your kids view you as the “bad guy” who essentially ruined the life they’d always known? It’s Complicated … Read More »
Through Sickness and in Health—Unless…
Remember that part of your marriage vow where you promised to stick together through sickness and health? It may surprise you to learn that when it comes to serious illnesses, marriages are a whopping seven times more likely to fall apart when women become sick than when their husbands do. What’s up with that?… Read More »
