Author Archives: Jay Butchko
Adult Children Dealing with Their Parents’ Divorce
Older couples who choose to divorce generally feel entitled to do so without consulting with their children about it. After all, they held the marriage together for many years. Now the kids are adults with lives of their own. How much could their parents’ divorce possibly impact them at this point? Gray Divorce Gray… Read More »
Gambling and Divorce
Financial distress can be a huge problem for a marriage. That can be compounded if the money problems are the direct result of a gambling addiction. Unfortunately, the addiction can result in family and financial obligations being ignored. Both partners can be swept up in deception, mistrust, and resentment, which can eventually lead to… Read More »
Is Split Custody Worth Your Consideration?
When parents divorce, there are many factors that must be weighed in determining custody and visitation expectations. The courts lean toward shared custody agreements that allow for maximum time with each parent, but there are situations in which that’s just not practical. Many couples settle on one parent to hold primary custody, with extensive… Read More »
Holiday Domestic Violence
While for many, the holidays are a symbol of love, peace, and empathy, victims of domestic violence know that holiday cheer is not theirs for the taking. Woefully, domestic violence (DV) incidents spike during the season, filling the air with fear, anger, and pain in homes across America. Why is this time of year… Read More »
Can You Change Your Mind About the Divorce?
You thought long and hard about ending your marriage, and ultimately decided that a split was the best decision for everyone involved. Since then, you’ve both hired attorneys and have been moving steadily toward a divorce. But now you’re having second thoughts. After all that time together, the thought of losing the emotional and… Read More »
Should You Insist on a Paternity Test?
If you’re in a relationship and there’s a baby on the way, if there’s a chance the identity of the biological father is in question you may be wondering about the wisdom of pursuing a paternity test. You may be reluctant to imply that there is any question as to who fathered the child,… Read More »
6 Things About Divorce
Divorce: it’s a huge decision, and one that results in loss, no matter how you slice it. You lose a partner, a routine, and a way of life. It’s an emotional drain, regardless of who initiated it, and regardless of how amicable things are between the two of you. Whether it feels excruciating or… Read More »
Living Together Post-Divorce
More and more divorced couples wind up living together after their divorce these days. A lot of the driving force behind this is economic pressures, what with inflation, housing costs, and the like. Is it a good option for you? Benefits Without question, sharing the cost of housing and more can ease much of… Read More »
Gen Z Looks at Marriage and Divorce Differently
As Gen Z-ers hit their late 20’s, some have dipped their toes into marriage and discovered they didn’t like it as much as they thought they might. And while this group has some similarities to others seeking a divorce, as a group, there are some big differences from previous generations, as well. Gen Z… Read More »
Resolving Parenting Disputes Through Education and Mediation
When divorcing parents who are non-violent find it difficult to tune in to their kids’ needs, it is sometimes because they are so wrapped up in conflict with their spouse that they can’t seem to get beyond it. If this sounds familiar, rest assured that interventions such as divorce education, therapeutic mediation, and parenting… Read More »
