One Last Chance or Just Get Divorced?
You and your spouse have had the same issues for what seems like forever. You’ve talked (argued) about them endlessly, all to simply put them in a closet for a bit and revisit them again later. The thing is, nothing is getting resolved, and you’re tired of rehashing the same old arguments again and again. The question becomes, then, should you give the marriage one more shot, or just walk away?
Time to Reflect
It’s easy to understand the frustration you’re experiencing by constantly revisiting the same, tired problems time and again. Before doing anything drastic, you may want to spend some time reflecting on some serious questions:
- Are your problems thematic of your marriage, or signs of a temporary crisis?
- Are your problems soft–like trouble communicating, frequent arguments, or feelings of disconnection–or are they hard–like addiction, abuse, or infidelity?
- Is the problem fixable? Is there a universe in which both you and your spouse could commit to taking the steps necessary to make changes?
- Do you and your partner actually have–or even wish to gain– the skills to make your marriage work in a healthy and satisfying way?
- Are you both willing to concede partial responsibility for the state of your marriage, or do you spend your time blaming one another for what’s wrong?
- Are you willing to put in the time? Things will not magically get better overnight–if ever. How long are you willing to stay and give it your best?
- What steps need to be taken? Do you have a plan, or at least a starting point to get your marriage moving in the right direction? If so, can you imagine both you and your spouse expending real efforts toward success?
- Will a divorce get you the things you want in life? Is making the effort to repair the marriage better than the alternative of making the effort to start over on your own?
- What do you imagine happening if you do file for divorce? What are the best things? What is the worst? Conversely, what are the top and bottom outcomes if you stay married?
- Are you and your partner willing to get help from a professional?
- Are you in danger? If the issues you’re facing involve violence of any kind, you probably already know that second chances are not worth the risk.
If Divorce is the Answer
If, after really contemplating your options, you settle on divorce as the solution to your situation, the experienced Springfield divorce attorneys at Courtney & Mills are here to help. Schedule a confidential consultation in our Springfield office today.
