Author Archives: Jay Butchko
When In-Laws Drive You to Divorce
We’ve all heard the jokes about horrible mothers-in-law, and, while they’re always good for a chuckle, maybe your real-life in-laws are not so funny. Whether it’s your spouse’s parents or siblings, there’s no question as to the impact in-laws can have on a marriage—for the good or for the bad. The Research While in-laws… Read More »
Are You an Invisible Dad– Unrecognized by the World?
Times are changing, and that is very good news for fathers when it comes to child custody in a divorce. For years, women were presumed to be the “better” parent, and dads felt pretty lucky to see their children every other weekend and maybe one other night a week. But nowadays there are plenty… Read More »
Is it a Mistake to Move Out Before the Divorce is Finalized?
If you’re in a miserable marriage that has been consumed with bickering and unhappiness for a while, you may think packing up your stuff and finding your own place is the best way to announce that you want a divorce. While there are circumstances where moving out is absolutely the logical—even necessary—thing to do,… Read More »
Are You Sure About Getting Divorced?
It’s one of the biggest decisions of your life: getting a divorce. There are problems in your marriage, that’s for sure. But is there a route to happiness short of ending the marriage? Perhaps now, before going all the way, you should consider some questions in an attempt to bring clarity to the moment…. Read More »
When Your Kids Blame You for the Divorce
Divorce can be heart-wrenching in many ways, none more so than when children refuse to see or interact with one parent whom they hold accountable for the derailment of the family. What can you do if your kids view you as the “bad guy” who essentially ruined the life they’d always known? It’s Complicated … Read More »
Through Sickness and in Health—Unless…
Remember that part of your marriage vow where you promised to stick together through sickness and health? It may surprise you to learn that when it comes to serious illnesses, marriages are a whopping seven times more likely to fall apart when women become sick than when their husbands do. What’s up with that?… Read More »
How Do You Know if Divorce is the Right Move?
If you are feeling ambivalent about getting a divorce, don’t beat yourself up. You are considering one of the most dramatic and life-changing events possible. A decision this big shouldn’t be easy. If it’s something that’s been on your mind for a while, it may be worthwhile to seek clarity through some questions. If… Read More »
Read This if You’re Feeling Bad About Your Divorce
Divorce can be tough. Many people are burdened with long-term feelings that weigh them down as they strive to move forward following their divorce. It’s nearly impossible to turn over a new leaf when you’re stuck in past battles. So for anyone struggling to pull themselves out of the after-divorce rut, consider giving yourself… Read More »
Did Love Bombing Get You into a Bad Marriage?
The beginning of your relationship with your spouse was magical. You were showered with compliments and gifts, and your lover was always available to fulfill your every desire. They quickly elevated you as their soulmate and eagerly demonstrated their love in lavish and public ways. You simply couldn’t resist when they quickly insisted on… Read More »
Financial Problems and Divorce
If you are one of the millions of people whose marital relationship is on pins and needles due to financial issues, you’re not alone. Financial insecurity is bubbling up in many families these days due to job losses, rising prices, and uncertainty about what is ahead for the country. All of this can lead… Read More »
