Can You Change Your Mind About the Divorce?

You thought long and hard about ending your marriage, and ultimately decided that a split was the best decision for everyone involved. Since then, you’ve both hired attorneys and have been moving steadily toward a divorce. But now you’re having second thoughts. After all that time together, the thought of losing the emotional and physical relationship that’s been mooring you for so long is a bit frightening. What now?

Decisions, Decisions

You’ve both sunken some money, time, and emotional capital into the divorce process, so baking out now feels like it could be a mistake. On the other hand, you probably invested a lot more money, time, and emotional capital into your marriage. Hitting pause while you figure out what you really want may not be the worst idea in the world. And remember, whatever decision you make, it is only as final as you both want it to be.

Questions 

When you think about the future as a single, you have a lot of concerns about how your life will look. How will you handle the new financial realities? In what ways will this affect your kids? How will daily routines necessarily change? Will turning your life upside down achieve the ultimate goal of bringing you satisfaction and happiness in life? Or perhaps you acted rashly when moving toward divorce. Are the problems in your marriage really insurmountable? Are there steps you could take that could ensure a healthy relationship with your spouse that meets both of your needs?

Talk it Over 

Now may be the time to have a discussion with your spouse about your feelings and doubts. Ideally, you can share your concerns honestly and weigh the benefits of staying together versus divorcing. Certainly, you’re not the first person in the world to get cold feet when it comes to divorce, and hopefully your spouse will understand your feelings of ambiguity. It’s possible they share your feelings, and agree to hitting the pause button while you figure things out. On the other hand, they may wish to proceed with the divorce as planned, and could insist on moving forward even though it’s something you’re not certain about. Either way, the conversation will likely bring some degree of clarity and help you determine next steps, whether that means filing a motion to dismiss and hiring a marriage counselor or continuing with the divorce on schedule.

Getting it Right 

The dedicated Springfield divorce attorneys at Courtney & Mills want you to get it right and will support you as you struggle with the many issues associated with this decision. To discuss, schedule a confidential consultation in our Springfield office today.

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